I love this article on step parenting, the approach to it, the attitude, the understanding of what is important.
I have never understood how adults act without any connection to the pain they are causing their children. I have never understood choosing to live in a living room filled with constant hate and a hyper vigilant need to destroy or undermine the other parent. Children are forced to live with that and their response is to do whatever is necessary to create peace. Sadly, most often, that requires them to play the game of hating the other parent and never visiting them because at least then it makes the primary care parent calmer. These children are not choosing to alienate the other parent. They are beaten into submission by the hate of the controlling parent. Continue reading